Sample Wedding Flow Chart

The Sample Wedding with Flow Chart

 This is a sample of a Wedding Flow Chart.  I decided to make it very easy to follow.  There are lots of ways to do this.  No one way is THE BEST WAY to do this.  I left out items such as "the charge to the couple."   What I want to establish here is that this is YOUR WEDDING that you and I are working on.  It does not matter for anyone else.  What does matter is what you are trying to establish for your wedding day.    Make your day the way you want it to be.  I will help you as well as advise you.  Wedding Planners can also help.  What you want to do is be aware of your timing and spacing.  The Wedding will flow with ease and work together to make it the day you will always want to remember!                                                                                                                     

Wedding Flow Chart

(Play Music #1)
Unity Candle - Mothers or representatives of each family, bride's family first, followed by groom's representative, escorted by ushers to the unity candles.  Unity Sand is poured at the same time and then the mothers are escorted to their seats.
(Play Music #2)
Procession - From start of procession to finish:  junior bridesmaids, bridesmaids, matron of honor, ring bearer, flower girls.   Pay attention to spacing!!!

 (Play Music #3)Father of the bride and the Bride walk down the Aisle.

Groomsmen - The groomsmen can either stay up front with the best man and the groom; meet bridesmaids halfway down the aisle, or walk completely down the aisle with the bridesmaids.  The groom and the best man always are up front with the Wedding Officiant. 

Greetings of the Day by Steve Hoffman/Wedding Officiant.
Announcement of Readings and Readers - These can be done throughout the ceremony.
Vows - You may use my vows or write your own (no problem).  Groom first, followed by the bride.

Ring Ceremony - Groom first followed by the bride.
(Play Music #4)
Unity Candle- Unity Sand to be poured by the bride and groom.  Flowers for the bride's mother and groom's mother to be taken surprisingly to them as a token of your appreciation.
Announcements (if any)
Closing Prayer (if any)
Ending of Ceremony
Pronouncement of Husband and Wife
Receiving Line - only if wanted
Let the Celebration Begin!

__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Samuel Clements aka Thomas Jefferson Snodgrass aka Mark Twain-Taken from a writing at a Riverboat Wedding for friends.

 “A marriage makes two fractional lives a whole.   It gives to two questioning natures a renewed reason for living.  It brings gladness to the sunshine, and a new fragrance to the flowers, and new beauty to the earth, and of course, a new mystery to life.”

 O' eternal God, creator and preserver of all mankind, send thy blessings upon this man and this woman whom you bless in thy name so that they will surely perform the vows of the covenant made between them.  Look gracefully upon them that may love, honor, and cherish each other, and so live together in faithful, patient, and true goodness.  May their home be a heavenly blessing and a place of peace.  We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ, our Lord. 


The Art of Marriage

The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating
gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a
sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in
which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and
the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and
the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner,
it is being the right partner


~ By Edmund O'Neill ~

Marriage is a commitment to life, the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other relationship can equal. It is a physical and an emotional joining that is promised for a lifetime.

Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. And there may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing, and the love of the other may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child.

Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller, memories are fresher, commitment is stronger, even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.

Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing a love that is deeper than life.

When two people pledge their love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique unto themselves which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential made in the hearts of two people who love each other and takes a lifetime to fulfill.


What God has joined together, let no man put asunder. 

Dearly beloved we are gathered here today in the sight of God, and in the presence of these, your many friends and family, to join this man, and this woman in holy matrimony which is an honorable estate instituted by God.  It is therefore not to be entered into unadvisedly, but reverently, discretely, and to the fear of God that these two persons come now to be joined. 

I charge you both to remember that love and loyalty alone will avail in the foundation of a happy home.  If the solemn vows that you are about to assume/make be kept pure, your lives will be full of joy and the home you are establishing will abide in peace.

No other human ties are more tender, no more perfect than those which you are about to assume. 

I ask you (groom), and I ask you (bride), are you both now ready to profess your faith to each other?

It is now time for both of you to face each other and profess your faith to one another. 

Groom: I ________, take you _______, to be my lawful wedded wife, to have and to hold  from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, for as long as you/we both shall live?

Bride: I _______, take you _______, to be my lawful wedded husband,  to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish for as long as you both shall live? 

May we now present the rings.

Groom/Bride: With this ring I thee wed and I pledge unto thee, my faith and my love.

(If needed and or wanted, either Unity Candle, or Sand Ceremony and Flower Presentation and thanks to Mom and Dad!!)

And now it is time to light the candle (join the sands) of unity uniting both families now together as one/

If for whatever reason you choose not to use a Unity Candle during your ceremony, the sand ceremony can be a beautiful and meaningful addition to your vows. Simply find three containers, one for you and your fiancé to pour the sand into, two for each of you to pour the sand from. You can find colored or plain sand at most craft stores. After the officiant reads the text below (or any text you choose) pour the two containers of sand into the third container simultaneously. You may wish to leave a small amount of sand in each container to symbolize that although you are now joined as one, you each remain individuals.

_______ and _______, you have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings and the exchange of a kiss, and this covenant is a relationship pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. The most beautiful example of this partnership is the marriage relationship. You have committed here today to share the rest of your lives with each other. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand one, representing you, _______ and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you, _______, and all that you were and all that you are, and all that you will ever be. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.

(Congratulations by Steve to Bride and Groom and then on behalf of the audience.)

Here are a couple of closings:

 Old Irish Blessings

May the raindrops fall lightly on your brow
May the soft winds freshen your spirit
May the sunshine brighten your heart
May the burdens of the day rest lightly upon you
And may God enfold you in the mantle of His love.

May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the sun shine warm upon your face
and the rain fall soft upon your fields
And until we meet again my friend
May God hold you in the hollow (palm) of his hand

May God be with you and bless you
May you see your children's children
May you be poor in misfortunes and rich in Blessings
May you know nothing but happiness
from this day forward

But rich or poor, quick or slow,
May you know nothing but happiness
From this day forward.
May the joys of today
Be those of tomorrow. 

Or this reading:

Scottish Wedding Blessing,

the Pille Version 5-24-2009

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet,

Enough trials to make you strong,

Enough sorrow to make you human,

Enough hope to make you happy,

May joy and peace surround you both and Contentment latch your door,

May happiness be with you now and

God bless you ever more!


For as much as you have consented to live together in wedlock, you have professed your faith to each other in the presence of these your many friends and now your family.  Now, by the Power and authority vested in me by this the Commonwealth of Kentucky/The great State of Ohio, I now proudly pronounce you as Husband and Wife.  You may now kiss your Bride!!!! 

 Ladies and Gentlemen, it is with great honor I present to you as husband and wife, Mr. & Mrs. _________________!!!!!!!!!